A Meditation on “Escalation,” Sister Edition — from Ute Heggen

The link may not work here–find this video by typing Feminist Claire into the YouTube search line Be sure to watch this video to the end, or fast forward to the last section, regarding the wives and the coercion the wives are subjected to–find the channel, Feminist Claire on YouTube and this is her most […]Continue reading “A Meditation on “Escalation,” Sister Edition — from Ute Heggen”

A Meditation on “Escalation”

I have nothing especially insightful to preface this with — the poster and commenters give thorough and honest treatment of the predictable attribute of escalation in autogynephilia. Also valuable: the transwidows’ input in the comment section, and the linked Twitter commentary, especially from Trans Widows Voices and Dr. Em. You cannot negotiate with mis/undiagnosed, untreatedContinue reading “A Meditation on “Escalation””


These commonplaces orbit the various gravities of family structures. Everyone knows them, if only by sight or memory. And their trajectories invariably shift — as everything shifts. What He Took With Him A 1950s Cardinal China Company double-sunflower spoon rest, nacreous majolica-like glaze, lightly chipped on the back. It lived its life on our parents’Continue reading “Artifacts”

Healing from Trauma: “Adam’s Complaint” by Denise Levertov

Some people,  no matter what you give them, still want the moon. The bread,  the salt,  white meat and dark, still hungry. The marriage bed  and the cradle, still empty arms. You give them land,  their own earth under their feet, still they take to the roads And water: dig them the deepest well,  stillContinue reading “Healing from Trauma: “Adam’s Complaint” by Denise Levertov”

A Meditation on “Joy”

One of the first things they’ll target is your capacity for joy. The why hardly matters; whatever is fragmented or rapacious within them is their own business, their own responsibility. Nevertheless they persist. Joy is a soft target, highly valuable. It has long mycelial roots; poison them, and you interrupt the fruiting bodies of soContinue reading “A Meditation on “Joy””

Healing from Trauma: “Ithaka” by C.P. Cavafy

This poem is an excellent talisman for remembering the differences between journey, destination, and destiny. ~~~ As you set out for Ithaka hope the voyage is a long one,full of adventure, full of discovery. Laistrygonians and Cyclops, angry Poseidon – don’t be afraid of them: you’ll never find things like that on your way as long as your keepContinue reading “Healing from Trauma: “Ithaka” by C.P. Cavafy”

Ute Heggen’s Memoir “In the Curated Woods” Officially Published!

The ebook is now available, most likely the easiest choice for readers across the waters, over the rivers, through the woods. The book isn’t in the 4 New Releases anymore, so you type Ute Heggen into the search line and I am at the top of a column of interesting titles. I imagine the ebook […]Continue reading “Ute Heggen’s Memoir “In the Curated Woods” Officially Published!”

Healing from Trauma: “How to Do a Digital Detox,” Cleveland Clinic

Digital Detox is cliché by now — we know what it is (roughly), that it’s good for us (vaguely), that we should do it (abstractly). The doing is another story — the first few days are harder than you’d think. We’re so deeply enmeshed with tech and telecom that turning off our devices and reorientingContinue reading “Healing from Trauma: “How to Do a Digital Detox,” Cleveland Clinic”

Pertinent Research — “Association Between Shame and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Meta-Analysis” by Teresa López-Castro et al. (2019)

In response to two separate and deliberate public shamings of trans survivors within the online “GC” community (call it whatever you like), let me be perfectly clear: when you do this to a PTSD/C-PTSD patient — as instigator or participant — you are directly complicit in reactivating their trauma. Full stop. For trans survivors: pleaseContinue reading “Pertinent Research — “Association Between Shame and Posttraumatic Stress Disorder: A Meta-Analysis” by Teresa López-Castro et al. (2019)”

Modern Feminist Classics: “Feminist Myths about Sisterhood” by Phyllis Chesler

A hard read, and a good read. “. . . some of us revered, rather than became, the women we most admired. Sometimes we found ourselves drawn to a feminist who was quite abusive to women. We believed in her work and wished to bask in the light of her fame or ideas; as women,Continue reading “Modern Feminist Classics: “Feminist Myths about Sisterhood” by Phyllis Chesler”